There are many things I miss about Rob. One of our favorite traditions was to wake up early on a Saturday morning, grab a cup of coffee and a donut, and then stop at the many garage sales on the way. Rob would say, “You never know what you might find!” (Maybe one of the 27 shovels we have in the shed!)
One recent Saturday I decided to put on my big girl pants and carry on with this tradition, regardless of how painful it might be. My first stop was at the gas station. As I was filling up, a lady approached me and asked if I was Rob Maxey’s wife. After I said yes, she proceeded to say how sorry she was for my loss and how Rob had come alongside her son during a very difficult time in his life. With tears in both her eyes and mine, we hugged and I thanked her for sharing her memory of Rob with me.
Then I drove to the donut shop (I needed my fix after that!). I was a mess and it was only 6:00 am! The gentleman behind the counter, whom Rob and I both knew, asked how I was and if Rob was okay since he had not seen him for a while. I took a deep breath and proceeded to share that Rob went to see Jesus. He immediately started to cry harder than I had ever seen a grown man cry before. The tears were literally shooting out of his eyes and I suggested that he and I step outside. He told me about how Rob had prayed with him when his daughter had passed away years ago. We hugged and I thanked him for sharing his story with me and how sorry I was for his loss. It was now only 6:30 am and I was an even bigger mess. I finished the donut before I even left the parking lot!
As I drove home, I was reminded of what a massive legacy Rob has left in our community. I can’t go anywhere without seeing someone who has a Rob Maxey story! This also helped me see that not only is our immediate family grieving, but so is an entire community.
Just this past week, I received a text from Janelle, a great lady who co-leads the Collings Teen Center in West Sacramento. It was with such excitement that she told me that they were having a back-to-school giveaway the next day at the Teen Center. She shared that this is the last thing they talked about with Rob and he was so excited about it! “It has really blown up! We had more responses than we ever thought possible.
We have 300 kids registered for backpacks and more to give out on top of that. We have haircuts, crafts, a bounce house, school uniforms, hygiene kits, lunches and a health-screening truck!” The excitement in her text brought tears to my eyes as I remembered when Rob would nearly jump out of his skin when the Lord would far exceed his expectations! Rob’s legacy continues!
I recently started to read a book called Option B. It is coauthored by Sheryl Sandberg, a woman who lost her husband two years ago to a sudden heart attack when he was only 44 years old. She has two children who were 7 and 10 at the time of their father’s death. In the book, Sheryl shares how her option A was taken from her.
My Option A was to spend the rest of my life growing old with Rob, doing ministry side by side. Now that Option A is no longer available, I have to go with Option B. I can hear Rob saying, “Mishalle, you need to kick the crap out of Option B!” Although if you knew Rob, you probably know he wouldn’t have said “crap!”
Our Option B is to reach as many kids and families as possible by showing them the love of Jesus. That’s how we are going to carry on Rob’s legacy. Thank you for being a part of our Option B. Because of your generosity, whether it be through prayer or financial giving, we can all rest assured that Rob Maxey’s legacy will live on as God continues to exceed our expectations!
So we cared for you. Because we loved you so much, we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well. ~ 1 Thessalonians 2:8
Hello, this is Mickey Maxey.
I am writing this letter to thank each of you for being a part of Rob’s YFC support network.
Thank you for the cards, texts, posts, flowers and food you have given and the support that you have shown my family over the past weeks of great difficulty. I was so glad to see so many of you at the memorial service. Thank you for coming great distances, waiting in long lines and sharing your kind words and hugs with me and with Charley and Robby.
Your love, prayers and financial support over the years have done more than just support youth ministry initiatives. They have supported me, my boys and the family that Rob led so well. Thank you. Some people are asking me “should we continue to make our monthly donation or year-end gift to YFC?
The simple answer is, yes. It’s actually, “YES…now more than ever!”
Rob’s passion was to expand the youth ministry of YFC and Campus Life. He wanted to send more kids to camp, especially kids who couldn’t afford it. He wanted to see YFC on more campuses and in more communities. He even dreamed of expanding into San Francisco.
Rob at YFC’s River Run a couple of years ago, raising funds for the Collings Teen Center.
Rob’s passion for leading ministry was never detached from leading and providing for our family. Your support allowed him to give his time to his calling and to his family, which we heard about so well from our sons at his Memorial service. Didn’t they do an amazing job honoring their dad??
Now that Rob is gone, he cannot sit with each of you to share his heart. But I promised Rob, along with the YFC board, that we would work together to fulfill his ministry vision and care for his family after he could no longer do it himself.
It is my pleasure to serve on a committee that has the awesome task of assuring that the resources are available to fund Rob’s dreams and continue his legacy. I will get to have a powerful say in how your donations are used for YFC ministry, and my family will continue to receive healthcare and other benefits from YFC through your generous support.
This website has been established to share memories of Rob’s life and passions. There is a final letter from him posted here, as well as the video from his Celebration of Life and Eternal Life on April 29th, 2017. It’s also the place you can learn more about supporting the Rob Maxey Legacy Fund. Thank you for visiting the website and for helping us to carry on the good work that God started through His work in Rob.
Thank You, Thank You, and God Bless You,
|Making our annual gift for donors at Snook’s Candies this past December.|
We want to thank you all for the outpouring of love and support you showed Rob, and all of us during his illness and death. You will never know how blessed we’ve been by your friendship and kindness. It’s our hope that we can periodically let you know how we are doing, and how God is continuing to bless the YFC ministry that Rob loved so dearly. Stay tuned……
Mickey, Robby and Charley